Rebuilding Self-Esteem

Identifying negative self-thinking and using mindfulness skills to develop confidence and to cultivate a more positive self image.

People who believe in their self-worth tend to take more risks and expand their options, while people who have low self-esteem act to buffer themselves from failure and avoid situations that may risk internal or external criticism.

Self-esteem—what makes people think well of themselves—is at the core of our psychology. Positive self-esteem engenders resilience, optimism and strength.

While self-esteem may vary from culture to culture, how people view themselves may affect almost everything they do, think, or feel. It can influence their choices and decisions, who they have relationships with and how they respond to events in their lives. In our society, self-evaluation and judgment is a constant process for many, and it is impressed on us by the trends of the workplace and popular psychology, which heighten consciousness of capability and performance in myriad ways.

A person is painting on a canvasHigh or low self-esteem or self-confidence also tends to be self-perpetuating. Legions of experiments in social psychology indicate that people who seem self-confident and happy with themselves attract positive attention, while people who seem uncertain and who doubt themselves tend to avoid social contact and come to expect, and receive, more negative attention.

Dr. Wu’s approach in helping people to improve self-esteem is to combine cognitive behavioral techniques to identify negative self-thinking and criticism, and mindfulness skills to bring into finer focus the mental states that form ideas about the self. Psychodynamic psychotherapy can effect change and growth at the deepest level of psyche by tracking self-esteem in the context of relationship.

Low self-esteem and self-confidence can affect you in many ways:

Indecisiveness and uncertainty

A reluctance to share opinions

Avoidance of groups, withdrawn socially

Self-critical or emotionally conflicted

Social and professional isolation