Managing anger consists of being able to acknowledge and understand your strong emotions, and anger management counseling will help you to develop new skills to recognize, channel and express them constructively.
A quick temper or a tendency for showing negative emotions may indicate a difficulty controlling or coping with strong emotions, including anger. Learning to manage anger includes learning to tolerate difficult feelings rather than being controlled by them.
Anger can be among the most difficult emotions to feel. People are often afraid of anger because it is associated with aggression, a reality that is often exacerbated by the fact that many haven’t been socialized to know how to express their anger appropriately. More common is avoidance or inhibition of anger, leading it to build up over time, creating more serious problems.
When you lose your temper or show negative emotions, you can quickly lose social capital in the workplace, and it can take a toll on personal relationships, even when there is more room for forgiveness. It can be difficult to regain trust and respect if you lose control, which is why many people have been socialized to keep a tight rein on their emotions. But suppressing your anger comes with consequences: the buildup of stress creates the conditions for serious physiological diseases.
Strong emotions, including anger, can be a source of emotional depth and growth, if managed the right way; a process that psychotherapy could help with.
Dr. Wu’s helps patients with anger management counseling in her Boston office. Her approach is to help you to work with difficult or painful feelings, rather than suppressing them, by investigating and understanding the context in which they occur, and to replace unskillful responses with skillful ones. Recognizing how your anger starts and controlling how you react to it are two of the most important skills in managing anger. Only by understanding what triggers your anger can you do something constructive with it.
Mindfulness-based therapy can be particularly helpful and relevant to the management of strong emotions, including anger, because it focuses on developing skills to help you slow down, calm down, and increase your capacity for awareness and positive emotions, which can be a powerful antidote.
Read more about Mindfulness Therapy.
Suggested Reading for Anger Management
What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Problems with Anger.
By Dawn Huebner. 2007. Magination Press
Stress Management for Life: A Research-based Experiential Approach.
By Michael Olpin and Margie Hesson. Cengage Learning.
The Mindfulness Workbook: A Beginner’s Guide to Overcoming Fear and Embracing Compassion.
By Thomas Roberts. 2009. New Harbinger Press.